first steps
I don't have an update because I haven't done much (but i did reach out to two people, so woohoo). I want to write instead about why I decided to start this substack.
I started it because I wish I knew earlier that it is okay to not have your shit figured out. Shame comes with thinking you're the only one feeling a certain way, so I wish that more people were talking about their experiences and normalize what they're and probably everyone else is going through.
It's why I find it important to be honest with where I'm at. It's empowering to know that everyone else is as flawed as you are. It can be tempting to tuck away parts of yourself you don't like, but all those parts make a whole, and it'd be sad to not be your full self.
Maya Angelou has a collection of essays titled 'Wouldn't Take Nothing For My Journey Now". I love the notion it brings to mind; of choosing not to look back and to plod on.